Interview 28
Age at interview: 54
Brief Outline: Her daughter was admitted to a ward and her son-in-law to ICU after they had a car accident. She stayed in their home so she could visit.
Background: Hospital doctor, married with three adult children. Ethnic background/nationality: White British.
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In 2006 her daughter was admitted to a ward and her son-in-law to ICU after they had a car accident. Her son-in-law had head, neck, chest and arm injuries, then developed septicaemia. Her daughter had a broken leg and broken bones on both feet.
She lived some distance away from them and so spent 3 weeks living in their home so she could visit them in hospital. She also spent a few days at their home when her daughter was discharged. When her daughter was on a ward and her son-in-law in ICU, her daughter relied on family for information about her husband. She felt communication between ICU staff and ward staff could have been improved.
While her daughter was in hospital, her days were usually spent at the hospital and her evenings making phone calls to update other family members. At the time of interview her daughter had been discharged from hospital and her son-in-law was on a ward. She had returned to work and was visiting them at the weekends. Her main concerns were about how they would manage at home when neither of them were very mobile.
She lived some distance away from them and so spent 3 weeks living in their home so she could visit them in hospital. She also spent a few days at their home when her daughter was discharged. When her daughter was on a ward and her son-in-law in ICU, her daughter relied on family for information about her husband. She felt communication between ICU staff and ward staff could have been improved.
While her daughter was in hospital, her days were usually spent at the hospital and her evenings making phone calls to update other family members. At the time of interview her daughter had been discharged from hospital and her son-in-law was on a ward. She had returned to work and was visiting them at the weekends. Her main concerns were about how they would manage at home when neither of them were very mobile.
Focus on the patient and the moment in hand because things can change very quickly.
Focus on the patient and the moment in hand because things can change very quickly.
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Her daughter's and son-in-law's house was exactly as they'd left it the day they had a car...
Her daughter's and son-in-law's house was exactly as they'd left it the day they had a car...
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And during those first few days and you staying at their house, what was your day-to-day routine during that time?
It was a strange existence. My husband came home, so I was on my own. Visiting started at 11 o'clock in the morning and I was there soon after that, 11, half past 11. And stayed until sort of early evening.
In the ward?
Yes, yeah. I stayed with my daughter on the ward, except that I did visit my son-in-law in Intensive Care and brought a report back to her. And when she improved and was more mobile I actually took her down.
Was she able to walk or did she have a wheelchair?
No, wheelchair. Yes. I was almost living at the hospital. I ate at the hospital and then when I got back to their house I spent a lot of time on the telephone, informing people, giving progress reports about the two of them. Yeah
To family mainly or?
Family, mainly family. I spoke to my husband and other family members, yes.
Did you find it quite tiring being at the hospital all day and then coming back to make these phone calls or did you find it, you needed to talk to other people by that stage? How did you find that?
It was tiring. Yes, even though I wasn't doing a lot but just the emotion. It was emotionally draining. I made sure I got some fresh air and exercise. I actually walked to the hospital and back.
And how long was that?
It was half an hour walk each way. Yeah. And then, but then yes I was always very tired in the evening and didn't sleep very well because of all the concerns, worries.
Her son-in-law was extremely confused when he came round, had a poor memory for quite a while...
Her son-in-law was extremely confused when he came round, had a poor memory for quite a while...
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So that was worrying because he was still confused even though the sedative drugs had worn off. And my daughter was definitely worried that he was going to be permanently impaired but he has improved. And now I think, except I think you'd have to do special testing to find, you know, any deficits, any problems now.
So he's almost back to normal?
Yes.
Obviously he won't have remembered the accident but, but his memory generally, short - ?
I think so yes. His short term memory was poor in the first couple of weeks. Even a week ago he couldn't remember what he'd had for lunch. He couldn't remember whether he'd had physio that day but all that has, over the last couple of weeks, has gradually improved. And now he's virtually normal but they have said you know that he could continue to improve over several months.
At the beginning she felt her life revolved around the hospital and found it comforting talking...
At the beginning she felt her life revolved around the hospital and found it comforting talking...
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No, I don't think I needed to. As long as I could talk to people in the evening on the telephone, especially my husband when I got home and my sister. And told people what was happening. I did need to do that, yes. And that did help, yes. But that, I think other than that, I don't think any other support would have helped. People did offer practical things when I was there, with meals, but I was adequate. I ate at the hospital [laughs] I didn't really need any other help.