Fiona ' Interview 23
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Fiona and her husband waited two years after they got married before consulting the GP about their fertility. Tests showed that they had a male fertility problem and would need to have IVF treatment. They had to wait a long time before their treatment appointment came through at their local NHS hospital. Their first cycle of IVF treatment was abandoned. They then went through two full IVF cycles, neither of which worked. At this point, Fiona and her husband decided to stop treatment. They took a year off, and then started looking into adoption. They were soon approved and successfully adopted three sisters who had been living with them for six years at the time of the interview.
Fiona thought of the transferred embryos as "her triplets". She was upset and angry when she wasnt given all the details of what would happen if it wasnt successful.
Fiona thought of the transferred embryos as "her triplets". She was upset and angry when she wasnt given all the details of what would happen if it wasnt successful.
Fiona now realised she was not prepared for how hard it was going to be. Talking to other people...
Fiona now realised she was not prepared for how hard it was going to be. Talking to other people...
Fiona had waited a long time and was excited when she was called in to the clinic for a group...
Fiona had waited a long time and was excited when she was called in to the clinic for a group...
Fiona described the unpleasant side effects of her IVF, in particular how agonising she found her...
Fiona described the unpleasant side effects of her IVF, in particular how agonising she found her...
Fiona described the massive toll her failed treatment had on her.
Fiona described the massive toll her failed treatment had on her.
Fiona came to the slow realisation that she could not go on with treatment. Her mother suggested...
Fiona came to the slow realisation that she could not go on with treatment. Her mother suggested...
Fiona described how she needed to wait a year after stopping treatment before she could start of...
Fiona described how she needed to wait a year after stopping treatment before she could start of...
The adoption agencies themselves. My Mum had already told me that because she knew through these friends who had had a very similar experience. And then they put it out in their, if you, if you do phone them, they always ask you when your last fertility treatment was if you have had it, and if you are not within a year then they say come back when. Because I think there again they just know that you are not ready. You know, you could easily just be jumping from one thing into another, which you could be forgiven for doing at the time. But not be ready, that is one thing we look out for on the courses we do now, the preparation. I can spot somebody who isn’t ready. Because they cry very easy and they get very... you think actually they are still too immersed in, so it is quite interesting. So yes, I am glad they did, I mean with hindsight again, you don’t want to have to wait, but you do need that time. You really need to get your head sorted out, because then, adopting children is a whole new kind of board game and you are re-focussing, you are not going to get a baby, you’re not going to get, you know, your own child. You’re not going to get anything, you know, your own child, you’re going to get anything that you were originally intending. So you have to really think and re-focus on what you are going to get.