Sarah ' Interview 27
Sarah had infertility caused by endometriosis. Her IVF treatment was unsuccessful, and she was considering adoption.
Sarah is a hospital consultant and lives with her husband. Ethnic background' White British.
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In her late 20s, Sarah discovered that she had endometriosis, although did not realise at the time what a threat it might pose to her fertility. She had treatment for the endometriosis and doctors encouraged her to try IVF. She and her husband embarked on five cycles of IVF treatment although not all of them were successfully completed. Sarah found the egg collection very painful and for her last cycle she had the egg collection done under a general anaesthetic. At the time of the interview, Sarah and her husband had stopped treatment and were looking into adoption, although this was not proving straightforward. They had made a start with adoption proceedings from Guatemala, but the government had recently suspended Guatemalan adoptions. She had cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) after finishing treatment, which she found very helpful.
Sarah had painful periods and was diagnosed with endometriosis, so she was not surprised when...
Sarah had painful periods and was diagnosed with endometriosis, so she was not surprised when...
Sarah, herself a doctor, had suspected she had endometriosis but had not had tests. When she had a laparoscopy she was shocked at the extent of the disease.
Sarah, herself a doctor, had suspected she had endometriosis but had not had tests. When she had a laparoscopy she was shocked at the extent of the disease.
Sarah eventually decided to stop treatment and would have liked more direction from her doctors...
Sarah eventually decided to stop treatment and would have liked more direction from her doctors...
I mean I think the consultant would’ve let us carry on as long as we wanted to, because I think he so desperately wanted to provide us with what we want, you know, and, you know, you know, and he would forever tell me stories about people who have got an eighth of an ovary who managed to get pregnant and all this kind of thing. And again I think that really, I think we’d have welcomed a bit more direction, I think, I think may be doctors, fertility doctors have got to take a bit more responsibility, to, so people who really are poor, I guess there is a thing, they didn’t want to feel like they failed, they want to keep on pushing until they had got a successful outcome. But I think it is, yes, if somebody had told us to stop earlier it would have been quite nice to have the decision taken out of our hands. If somebody had said it is hopeless you should stop, that would have been in some ways quite helpful. But nobody knows, nobody knows, and I think, you do need, you know, all these things, you just need a little dose of luck don’t you and sometimes some people get it and some people don’t. And we haven’t had it so…
Sarah always thought she would have children and remains disappointed that friends around her...
Sarah always thought she would have children and remains disappointed that friends around her...
It is less frequent. But like me mother has got a picture in her flat of me and my sister when we were little, on the windowsill, and like even every time I see that I just feel, I just think God when I were that age I would never have thought that I would… turn out to be so disappointed, you know, because you always assume you are going to have a baby. You spend all your life playing at dolls don’t you and pushing dolls round in dolls pram, and like if any of my Mum’s friends or anybody we knew had got a baby we always wanted to go round there and see it and like I were always much, much more into children then my friends and when they all started having their babies before we started, you know, trying or whatever, it turned out they were always ringing up and saying what you should do and you know, I guess out of everybody I knew I would probably have been the one person that everybody would pick in terms of someone who definitely wanted to have children, you know, you know. Like there is one couple that we met that lived, two couples and we all kind of did things together when we were in New Zealand and they have got three children each and they have kind of got three children all the same age as each other. They have got, you know, they all go on holidays together, they have got three children. And the time that we have been back eight years now easily we have been back, they have found and planned a family and they have got, you know, a whole gang of folk between them and they can do all these nice holidays, and each kid has got, you know, an age appropriate playmate. And we are just not.
Sarah was excited to be starting classes towards her adoption from Guatemala, but was told she...
Sarah was excited to be starting classes towards her adoption from Guatemala, but was told she...
Sarah was prepared for one disappointment at the end of her IVF treatment, but not all the ups...
Sarah was prepared for one disappointment at the end of her IVF treatment, but not all the ups...
So I felt that a lot during the first course. The first course of treatment. And I also, I found it, all in all much, much worse than I’d anticipated. I mean I think I am a reasonably, you know, well until all this happened, a reasonably pragmatic, sensible person. And I think it is fair to say that whole IVF experience has been much, much worse then I would ever have anticipated. And I think it is really one of them things, that, you know, as I said, there’s only them has had it knows, and I think it really is the case with this. I’d have had no appreciation of it until I had done it myself.