Lulu ' Interview 05
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Shortly after getting married, Lulu and her husband started trying for a family. She was concerned that there might be problems as she had had a miscarriage in her early 20s. Lulu was 31 when she first went to the GP and was referred for tests. They showed nothing up and doctors suggested she start on fertility drugs (Clomid). She did not feel ready at that stage and waited another 18 months, while they moved house, before consulting the GP again. Lulu then took Clomid for a couple of months, but did not like the drug and threw them away. She did get pregnant during that time, but had an early miscarriage. She tried some more Clomid but had a bad reaction to it, so was referred for IUI. However the first clinic they went too did not seem to them very well set up and only offered a “Cinderella” service (no weekends or bank holidays). They went through three cycles, which Lulu found very stressful. She and her husband researched and found another clinic, which was smaller and friendlier. As they had, by this stage, been trying for 5 years, doctors recommended they start IVF. They conceived with their first cycle, although Lulu was very worried as she had had two miscarriages previously. But the pregnancy was supported with progesterone in the early weeks and at it progressed well. Lulu and her husband went on to have two more children, conceived naturally.
Lulu found the two-week wait very difficult but did not want to do a test at home. She had a...
Lulu found the two-week wait very difficult but did not want to do a test at home. She had a...
Lulu made several changes and used complementary treatments as she started out on fertility...
Lulu made several changes and used complementary treatments as she started out on fertility...
Lulu described how the caring atmosphere of the clinic made a big difference. It felt right for her.
Lulu described how the caring atmosphere of the clinic made a big difference. It felt right for her.
I think people you know they cared, and I think that is very important. You are not part… that was actually why I chose that clinic, because it was a smaller clinic. It was very small, five members of staff I think. So you knew everybody and whereas I had the opportunity to go to a much bigger one and I just felt, although they had fantastic success rates, you were just a number in a machine and I actually have heard that from a couple of people who have been there. Great, but you are just a part of the… you know, a lot of numbers and for me that is not all right for me.
Lulu was not keen on trying fertility drugs but eventually tried a few months of clomiphene (Clomid). She got pregnant but then miscarried.
Lulu was not keen on trying fertility drugs but eventually tried a few months of clomiphene (Clomid). She got pregnant but then miscarried.
Lulu had told her Mum and a few close friends. But she didn't talk to her mother-in-law for a...
Lulu had told her Mum and a few close friends. But she didn't talk to her mother-in-law for a...
I was always open about it. I mean you know, I mean, my mother-in-law just, you know we didn’t talk to her about it for a while and she just thought we didn’t want children. You know, and actually once, she just made that assumption that we weren’t going to have children and but she was great once she knew about it, she was great, you know, so yes, quite a difficult, it is a really difficult one that, really, really difficult, because you automatically expect people to understand, but people don’t. And not all women do.
Lulu's private fertility clinic offered counselling as standard, which she viewed as a good thing.
Lulu's private fertility clinic offered counselling as standard, which she viewed as a good thing.
No that was offered as part of the… you didn’t have to pay for it additionally, with the clinic, the private clinic they offered it as part of, you could go as many times as you want you know during that period or even afterwards if you hadn’t. So that was just part of what they offered. And I think that was a really good thing to do. Because sometimes I got to the point where you just think I can’t talk to people about this anymore. And you know and you can’t of think, oh I don’t want to bother with people any more. So it was quite good to have somewhere to go to kind of offload all of that. So yes.