Interview 23
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Recalls that he found the Cancerbackup's website very helpful.
Recalls that he found the Cancerbackup's website very helpful.
So they hadn't given you any information leaflets at the hospital?
No absolutely nothing, absolutely nothing. All that came through was just letters and appointments, no leaflets.
Did you find any other websites that were useful?
No we just stuck to one, the Cancerbackup, which you know for what I needed to know it was ideal.
Describes his reaction when he was told he would have to wait over two weeks for CT scan results.
Describes his reaction when he was told he would have to wait over two weeks for CT scan results.
They had left me, they were going to leave me until September 10th mulling over in my mind, what happens if I have to have chemotherapy, oh God that means that, that means, again they hadn't told me. So obviously got the letter at half past 8 in the morning, sat there and sat there and I thought no this has got to end. Rang work, as I've got BUPA cover, they told me that that I'd have to pay '100 excess for my treatment. My Dad straight away said "Don't worry about that, that's not a problem I'll pay that." So that was a relief. So I rang up BUPA and said, "Is this doctor registered?" they said "Yes," they said "here's a reference number, ring back the secretary. Tell her that you want an appointment, a private appointment."
So I sat in there [at the hospital], waited and waited, the nurse came through. This is one thing that upset me the most, not, I didn't burst into tears, but the way the nurse just said "Oh the doctor has just nipped over the other side to get the results of your CT scan." And I'm thinking what's the September 10th, why were they going to wait, let me you know wait that long. If it's taken him 5 minutes to walk and get the results of a CT scan. And he's come in, sat down "Please to meet you." Just sat there "You'll be pleased to know that the cancer hasn't spread." So I'm like nothing else mattered then, he could've told me that my house was on fire and I wouldn't have cared (laughs). I was sat there stunned, I was just relieved and it was just all rolled into one.
Recalls that he expected only to have the lump removed and was shocked to discover he was having an orchidectomy.
Recalls that he expected only to have the lump removed and was shocked to discover he was having an orchidectomy.
The doctor came round, marked on my left thigh what testicle it was you know that they were going to be operating on. Then a consultant came in, he said that did I know what the operation entailed? I said, "Yes removing the lump." He said, "A radical orchidectomy," I said "No removing the lump," he said "Yeah."
My girlfriend commented on the look on my face, when he used radical I knew that it wasn't probably just going to be removing the lump. So then my doctor came round with a consent form and said, 'Did I have any questions before I signed it?' I said "Yeah one big question that's burning inside me what are you actually going to do?" He said, "We're removing the testicle." And I just looked at him in amazement.
And I remembered back to the Monday that I was told that I was going to have the operation and I remember his exact words "We are going to remove the lump." At no point did he say that we are going to remove the testicle. So I sat there in amazement. I signed the form. I wasn't going to go back. I knew that it was the best thing for me. He said that operating on a testicle with a lump on it, if it was cancerous that would encourage the cancer to spread. So I then went on to ask him if it was cancer what would then be the procedure. He said that I'd be asked back in for a CT scan and then obviously further treatment if required. So again I just, it all came to me, it was three hours till the operation and they tell me this. It was not good timing.
Explains that he developed a stitch abscess after his operation.
Explains that he developed a stitch abscess after his operation.
Says that he was not offered a false testicle when he had the orchidectomy and that men should be asked.
Says that he was not offered a false testicle when he had the orchidectomy and that men should be asked.
Perhaps one thing I should mention I was never offered an artificial testicle.
I was going to ask you about that.
Never, no mention, absolutely nothing. I've been asked so many times by people "Oh I guess you had an artificial one put in." No mention, no, never got asked. Which people were so stunned about. They're like, "You are joking?" and I'm like "No."
Would you consider having that done now if you were offered one?
No. Again as I said I'm not ashamed of it, it doesn't bother me one little bit, you can't hardly tell to look at it. It doesn't, you know obviously if people want to stare at my, you know, my private parts, then obviously that's their problem, in the showers and things, but you know (laughs) if someone said to me "Oh you've only got one," I'd say, "Well what you looking for?" you know that would my obvious reply to them. But it doesn't bother me. But again would people, should people be asked? I guess so, they should be asked if they want to have an artificial one put in.
Recalls that the doctor explained about the regular check-ups that would be necessary.
Recalls that the doctor explained about the regular check-ups that would be necessary.
Recalls that his boss was very supportive even though he had only just started a new job.
Recalls that his boss was very supportive even though he had only just started a new job.
Were you worried about work?
Yeah I was worried that I was going to lose my job. I know it's silly. I look back now and the people I work with, my boss was superb; my boss above him was superb. They were fantastic; I'd keep in touch just to let them know what was happening. Each step you know I've been through with you today I would let them know what was happening so they were up to date.