Interview OV07
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Found out her diagnosis accidentally when visiting her GP for another problem.
Found out her diagnosis accidentally when visiting her GP for another problem.
So I had a little bladder problem, went down to the doctor's and went in to see him. I said, 'He said. 'How are you feeling?' I said, 'Well, you know, pretty rough but I'm getting over it'. And he said, 'Have you seen your specialist yet?' I said, 'Well I'm going next week'. He said, 'Oh is he going to discuss your treatment with you?' I said, 'What my HRT?' He said, 'No, your chemotherapy'. I said, 'Pardon?' He said, 'Hasn't he told you?' I said, 'What?' He said, 'They found a tumour in your ovaries, he'll be discussing chemotherapy with you'.
Oh well, that was like somebody hitting me, you know, I'd just nipped down to the doctor's about a bladder problem, you know.
Used a herbal remedy and consumed cooling food and drinks to relieve menopausal symptoms.
Used a herbal remedy and consumed cooling food and drinks to relieve menopausal symptoms.
And the other thing is to try and keep cool. Keep yourself cool and maybe drink cool things and eat cool things. I've got a lovely book, actually, it's a recipe book, and I bought it at the Cancer Research shop, the bargain shop, you know, and it's all got herbal recipes and things like that and it tells you about all the different foods and it tells you which are cooling foods and which are hot foods. I mean, it's quite natural, if you think about that, chillies and garlics and things like that are going to be hot things and things like cucumber, cabbage, celery, are going to be cooling things, you know. So I mean, if you can drink cool drinks and eat cool foods, keep your system, you're trying to keep your system cool, you know, 'cos I find sometimes if I do have a cup of tea, which I do, if I hold the pot for too long, I'll get a hot sweat, you know. So I try to keep cool.
Changed to eating mainly organic food and avoiding convenience foods to keep as well as possible.
Changed to eating mainly organic food and avoiding convenience foods to keep as well as possible.
Felt ugly after her treatment, so made a big effort to look her best.
Felt ugly after her treatment, so made a big effort to look her best.
Found sex uncomfortable after her treatment so found other ways to be intimate with her husband.
Found sex uncomfortable after her treatment so found other ways to be intimate with her husband.
Saw no point in worrying about dying from cancer: she preferred to live her life to the full.
Saw no point in worrying about dying from cancer: she preferred to live her life to the full.
They can't predict what is going to happen to you. They can't say this that or the other, you know. Just like, they're expecting mine to reoccur in a year's time, they could be wrong about that. It might be, take ages before it reoccurs, so you've just got to think positive about things.
Before I got cancer I was not making the most of my life. I was working, earning lots of money, stressed out, running around, ignoring my husband, never seeing my family, not looking at birds, how beautiful a bird is, little eyes, little wings, it flies about. Isn't it marvellous how it flies about, you know what I mean? And that's what you've got to do, just make the best of it, you really have.
Reading about other people's experiences helped her to feel more content.
Reading about other people's experiences helped her to feel more content.
While off sick paid for a new mortgage from savings, then left work when her cancer returned, losing everything.
While off sick paid for a new mortgage from savings, then left work when her cancer returned, losing everything.
You said you had to go back for financial reasons. How did it work out financially, being off sick from your company?
Well at first they were very good. The first time around they were very good, you know, just putting me on half pay and things like that, which was good. But at the time we'd just bought a new house and we had two houses at once. So we had a huge mortgage so a lot of my savings went and because they left my job open after 6 months I really felt obliged to go back, and so I went back full-time straight away within a month of finishing my chemo.
But I did go back for a year but then when the cancer came back this time obviously I don't think work was interested anymore anyway and they were a little bit less compassionate this time, you know. And it was hard, you know, the company car going and, you know, the big salary going and going onto benefits. But, you know, I've now moved home, got a lesser home and you know, things are fine. Money's not everything.