Bowel (Colorectal) Cancer
Breaking the news
There is no easy way to tell someone that they have cancer. However, many people describe their cancer experience as life-changing and the way in which they are told can have a powerful impact on their state of mind, coping ability and future relationship with their medical team.
Practitioners breaking the news
A few people felt that their doctor had broken the news in a compassionate manner. Stephen thought the surgeon gave the diagnosis sensitively and spent time answering all their questions. One woman describes such an encounter and explains how it helped her not to feel isolated by the diagnosis.
The diagnosis was a shock to Stephen but he thought the surgeon broke the news sensitively.
The diagnosis was a shock to Stephen but he thought the surgeon broke the news sensitively.
Yeah we
Were you parents with you?
So we were in hospital for six days and then the surgeon said “You can go home, for a weekend and take it easy obviously don’t do much ‘cos you’re recovering from surgery, come back on Monday morning and we’ll discuss the results because they’ll be back from the lab then.”
So we came back took to a side room me, my Mum and Dad in the room and the surgeon and then there was a, I think he’s a head nurse of the children’s ward. And the surgeon just went through what the results were, he did it sensitively as well he did a, objectively he told us the facts and we just went through it all. Just asked lots of questions, what’s happening next? What’s the extent of the cancer? What can I expect for the next however long? And so he told us the next step was to move to be referred to either [another hospital] to discuss chemotherapy.
Oh what were all your reactions then?
Obviously we were shocked, hugely shocked that at that age to get cancer but it was diagnosed post operatively which helped so it was kind of, “You’ve got cancer but we think we’ve kind of took it all out.” ‘cos obviously it’s kind of a bit better and, and there was a lot of relief that we actually had an answer to what was wrong with me and it was kind of “Oh we can get this out of the way then I can start back to normality.”Her consultant's way of breaking the news helped her feel confident about treatment.
Her consultant's way of breaking the news helped her feel confident about treatment.
And I was actually very impressed with that because I immediately felt that I wasn't on my own in this and I said "Is it cancer?" and he said "Yes." And I asked him if it was operable and he said "Yes it is." He said "I'll tell you what I propose to do about it." And he told me.
I asked him if there were any alternatives, any other options and he looked me straight in the eye and he said "No."
And I completely trusted him, he was obviously very experienced and he made me feel that he was in it with me, which obviously, you know, I didn't feel alone. And, and so I didn't question it, I just decided there and then to go completely with it and to do what he said.
And I've never had cause to regret that. I still feel that that was the best option and, and I'm glad I went for it although I had to have major surgery.
Other people said that the manner in which they were told was blunt but not unsympathetic or probably for the best. Unfortunately, many of the people we talked to when this study was conducted in the 2010s felt that they were told they had cancer in an insensitive or inappropriate manner.
Doctors now receive more training and guidance on how to better communicate with and deliver bad news to people and this has helped to reduce the number of people who are unhappy with the way they are told of their diagnosis.
The shock of having cancer was compounded for those who had received repeated assurances from their GP or consultant that what they had was certainly not serious, and, in some cases, a product of their imagination. Many had gone to the appointment alone. One woman whose GP and consultant had both been slow to act and unhelpful in their communication with her, explains that she never understood that a polyp could be cancerous.
She did not understand that a polyp could be cancerous and was shocked by her diagnosis.
She did not understand that a polyp could be cancerous and was shocked by her diagnosis.
On the Saturday morning I got a letter from my GP saying "Please come up here at your earliest convenience because like I need to see you but don't get alarmed about this letter," which I didn't because I'm still assuming it's a polybus [polyp].
And I goes up there on the Monday morning, on my own because I didn't think there was anything wrong and I see like the GP and he said to me I've had a letter back from the consultant and the surgeon [at hospital] and I'm afraid like you know it's more serious than what we thought.
So I looked at him, I went "No, no it's alright like I've got a polybus [polyp]." So (laughs) I mean I'm laughing now, I wasn't then, he said "No I think we're talking on crossed lines." He said "you've got a Dukes C carcinoma of the bowel." And I just looked at him and you know obviously I didn't take it in and I just came out of there and I just walked round, like trying to sort it out in my mind.
Having some idea that cancer is a possibility before diagnosis can help to reduce fear and uncertainty about what happens if cancer is diagnosed. One woman described being shocked when she found out but explained that at least knew what would follow.
Inappropriate practitioner behaviour
In some cases, people felt that their personal dignity had not been appropriately considered. Several people described being slapped on the bottom by their consultant after examination of their back passage or being told they had cancer while they were still undressed and on the table.
One man describes such an experience and how it made him feel. A woman recalls being told she had cancer only after a group of medical students were given the opportunity to look at her tumour.
He felt his dignity was not considered when he was given his diagnosis.
He felt his dignity was not considered when he was given his diagnosis.
How did you feel about being told in that way, you know, before you even had a chance to get dressed and get yourself together?
Well I think it, it came as a total shock, it was a little bit more afterwards that I felt, I'm sure I could have been told better, in, in a better way. And being able to sort of ask questions you know. I was just sort of dumbfounded. You know, "you, you, you've got a tumour, you need an operation. Thank you very much. Nurse take him away, help him put his trousers back on again and, and get him out of here." That's how I felt at the time. And I felt it was very poor.
If I could have cleaned myself up, got dressed, sat down, perhaps had a cup of tea with the doctor or the nurse telling me then, a bit more gently, not so, not so brutally, it would have been a lot better.
A few people felt that the way they were told they had cancer was completely unacceptable. One woman received her initial diagnosis in a public ward and was then bluntly told she had multiple secondary tumours of the liver by the radiologist doing her scan. She describes the discussion with her consultant that followed. A man described being (wrongly) told he had only months to live by a surgeon who then immediately left the room.
Her diagnosis of inoperable cancer was insensitively conveyed.
Her diagnosis of inoperable cancer was insensitively conveyed.
But the consultant just came in, and I mean I know perhaps they don't like telling bad news but he said "I'm sorry but I can't operate your liver's far too bad. If we did operate the operation would kill you because of your liver as well and he said "I'm afraid there is absolutely nothing I can do for you."
So I said "Well, how, how long do you think I've got to live?" So he said "Oh possibly six months." And um, he didn't say a lot else and I said "Well isn't there anything I can do?" and he said well he would refer me on to the oncologist.
But it was all so cold and so hard. I mean, as I say, the sister and the junior doctor were quite caring and nice but it was all, it was all so traumatic and so sudden and so awful.
The consultant never even said "Well how do you feel? Do you feel ill? Are you in any discomfort or are you in any pain?" Nobody had asked me that at all. "How are you managing?" And I mean actually my symptoms just before that had been so bad it was uh difficult to go out because the bleeding had got so bad and the bowel problems had got so bad.
Describes being wrongly told he had only a short time to live.
Describes being wrongly told he had only a short time to live.
And he just went out, left us in the air, just like that.
I couldn't hear any more. I was just like gob-smacked and just in a very bad state. And as far as we were concerned there was another surgeon, part of his team that was sitting on a chair next to me and he was sitting there with his mouth wide open because I could see that he couldn't understand how a guy could relate like this.
And my partner was with me, she was, had her mouth open as well. Well someone must have, I think this guy who was sitting next to my partner walked out the room and sent him back, I think he must've sent him back.
He came back and he wasn't much better when he came back and he says "If you need a second opinion I don't mind," and he said "but I'm around the whole of Christmas and if you want to see me you can." And he said that "I think that you ought to go off and enjoy yourself as much as you can." (laughs)
Several people also recalled being left entirely alone after receiving their diagnosis. The woman who only found out she had cancer after a group of medical students explains how she felt when this happened to her.
Concealment of diagnosis
A number of people said that their cancer was deliberately concealed from them or that throughout diagnosis and treatment the word 'cancer' was never mentioned. A woman who had bowel surgery but was never told she had cancer explains how she found out by accident and how this discovery might have saved her life. A man who had an ileostomy as treatment for ulcerative colitis only found out years later that, in fact, he'd had cancer.
She was never told she'd had cancer and only found out accidentally.
She was never told she'd had cancer and only found out accidentally.
So I went back to my mum and I said "Mum this is carcinoma," and I said "but he didn't tell me it was cancer."So I went back to him and I confronted him with it and by that time I'd figured he was a lovely GP, I'm sure he was very proficient, very well respected but he obviously was at the end of his career.
And I questioned him about it and his, his response was "Well I didn't want to worry you," which I just found just (laughs) I just found that unbelievable.
And so what I did, I went back to the army GP and I said "I need to see another doctor," and so he referred me to another gastroenterologist and he took a look at the notes and he said that he didn't think that there was a radical, that the section was radical enough and that he would recommend that I go back in and have a further section done.
The reason given for concealing the diagnosis was usually 'not wanting to worry' the patient even though the information was relevant to a family history of the disease. Other patients found it strange and unhelpful that words like 'blockage', 'polyp', or 'problem' were used instead of the word 'cancer'.
A woman who did not hear the word cancer mentioned throughout her treatment explains how she never fully understood she had the disease until a letter arrived about a chemotherapy appointment. A man who was also treated without the word 'cancer' being mentioned pointed out that people with a life-threatening illness might well want to put their affairs and personal relationships in order.
She went through diagnosis and surgery without hearing the word cancer mentioned.
She went through diagnosis and surgery without hearing the word cancer mentioned.
"You've got a problem, there is something there" but they didn't say "cancer". And in my mind I didn't think, I didn't think cancer, I wouldn't allow myself to go down that, that, that way of thinking.
Well, the night of the operation my visitors were there, the doctor came to me, he said "We've taken your baby away!" It was so large the growth, that it was like a football. Still no mention of cancer.
And, I came out of hospital and had an appointment to return to the hospital.
At which time I saw not the surgeon but his understudy which is quite often the case I know and he said to me uh, he showed me what they'd done and he got the graph out, showed me what they, what they'd taken out. Still no mention of cancer.
He said that they didn't know whether it, it would have gone any farther, so this then started ringing bells. If they thought that I should go on for treatment, then I would get another letter and give me a date to go.
I did get the letter, I did go and see the gentleman, very nice, chemotherapy. So obviously by this time yes, bells are ringing in my head. You don't have chemotherapy for much else apart from cancer.
But no one had mentioned it in all this time.
Several people felt strongly that health professionals needed training in appropriate forms of communication.
Last reviewed November 2024.
Last updated November 2024.
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