Interview CH13
Age at interview: 1
Brief Outline: Joshua was diagnosed with Atrioventricular Septal Defect (AVSD) and Down's syndrome. Treatment: surgery at 4 months to repair his AVSD. No further treatment planned. Current medication: aspirin.
Background: Diagnosed at 2 days old. Parents' marital status: married. Occupation: Mother-Children's Book Designer, Father-Advertising. Other children: no other children. The family live close by to a specialist hospital.
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They didn't want too much information and chose instead to focus on spending time with their son.
They didn't want too much information and chose instead to focus on spending time with their son.
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Father'...I mean, it was Christmas when, yeah, Josh was born in November, and it was Christmas, a month later and the last thing, you know, I try and remember when we actually knew, knew we were actually going to have an operation. ...
Mother'...it was before Christmas, we knew, yes...
Father'...and I think the last thing we wanted to do was actually sort of go well you know. I mean we did, we went through a number of things, we actually had, we actually arranged for Josh to be christened before the operation only because, you know, not, not because we're overly sort of like religious. I think it was, it was just a nice way of getting the family together to spend some time with Josh. Because we didn't know what the outcome was gonna be. You know in, in any operation, there is always going to be sort of kind of like a, you know, a happy ending and a sad one. Possibly there's always that element and we just wanted to make the most of the time we got with Josh. And the last thing we wanted to be doing was pouring over books. I mean, we, you know we can't, at the end of the day we can't, we couldn't change anything.
Follow-up appointments remind them of what their son has gone through and his mother says she...
Follow-up appointments remind them of what their son has gone through and his mother says she...
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Mother' I don't, I get very nervous when he goes back for his check, check ups at the hospital where he had his heart op. I do get nervous before that. And I hate, and when he has his echo it's like, [my husband's] always the one that's sort of looking after him and, and, it's like, I don't, I find I just want to be, detach myself from it somehow. But, it's so far so good they've been fine thankfully '
Father' I think you just sort of think, well, it's almost like in the, the, you know, it's like an admittance of something actually happened, like something actually, you know, and you just, you just want to carry on with your life and '
Mother' Yes, you just want to put it behind you and not have to think about it any, any more. And like I say it's just the reminder of what he's been through.
Father' So I mean, the thing is again, you know, you, you were told, we were told at, right it's going to be 6 months the next time you visit and hopefully the time after that it might be well okay 12 months.
Their relationship had become stronger through mutual respect and realising how reliant they were...
Their relationship had become stronger through mutual respect and realising how reliant they were...
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They were expecting their baby to be looking better when he was moved on to the ward and were...
They were expecting their baby to be looking better when he was moved on to the ward and were...
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Father' He looked like he was going to be stealing other people's teddy bears and selling them [Mother' Yes] to raise cash for his, his morphine habit.
Mother' He, it really didn't look like him at all. But...
Felt relieved that surgery had been successful but nervous about administering medicine at home....
Felt relieved that surgery had been successful but nervous about administering medicine at home....
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Father' I never thought we'd get there, I mean, I think, we're...
Mother' You didn't want to think to that stage, did you really?
Father'You never, you never thought that it'd actually, you never, I think we'd never actually sort of seen that. You, like I say, you never actually see past the problem. You know, you only sort of see the problem and you can't, you don't, you know, it's just such a, it was such a huge thing to get, to get over that when we did come home it was just, it was just a hard, it was just, it was just, it felt really strange because we can't actually believe that we'd made it.