Lynn - Interview 28
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Lynn has lived with chronic pain since she was aged 14. She experienced the pain before and during her periods. At first the health professionals thought that she had endometriosis. She had several exploratory tests and treatments, including a laparoscopy and a drug induced menopause but she still does not have a clear diagnosis. She describes her condition as “a chronic pelvic pain sufferer; or as a chronic lower pain sufferer with a black hole” She says that this limbo situation as far as diagnosis is concerned is frustrating for both patient and medical professional. She is current being treated with' co-codamol (Tylex), sodium diclofenac (Voltarol), amitriptyline and morphine for flare-ups.
As a teenager she found communicating with health professionals, particularly GP's and specialists difficult. In her experience, she says, they can be divided into the 'patronising' and 'authoritarian' types.
For the last 14 years, pain has determined what she can and can't do in all aspects of her life but despite this she still has a positive outlook. She did a pain management course and it taught her techniques that have made her feel more in control of her pain and how she copes with it. A particularly valuable technique has been the 'breathing' technique. Moreover, she commented that the psychologist who taught her was a very good communicator and related to her as a friend.
She and her partner have been together for ten years and despite her doctors predictions she has become pregnant twice. Pregnancy is a particularly difficult period for her because she has to be taken off medication for the first three months each pregnancy which basically means that she is in a lot of pain during that period of time.
Her advice to other people suffering with chronic pain is that they are the only ones that really know what it is like to live with their own pain and that they have to live according to their own priorities and expectations, not those of other people such as friends and medical people.
It has been very difficult to live with physical symptoms and not really know what it is causing...
It has been very difficult to live with physical symptoms and not really know what it is causing...
I always, whenever I have tests, I always expect nothing. Early on when, early on, when I first began to have all the tests, I think I was expecting, you know, especially because my symptoms, out of short I was so symptomatic of endometriosis, I the know the cystitis type symptoms around my periods and the pain when I opened my bowels, the blood, the mucus, the blood, the change in my bowel habits, the pain, you know, all the things that can quite often be associated with endometriosis. I think whenever I did have exploratory tests, treatments whatever, I just automatically thought that they're going to find endometriosis and of course they didn't. So I was gutted because nobody wants endometriosis, don't get me wrong, it's an awful disease to have and, you know, but it was an answer. Having chronic pelvic pain it's you're not getting any answers and being told that they can't find anything operable, or they say in terminology there's nothing operable or nothing specifically we can identify that may or may not be causing your pain. You know it, it's gutting, it won't, that's probably the wrong terminology, it's very upsetting, it's very despondent, you know, you feel despondent, even though it's good. Obviously it's fantastic when they don't find anything because that means that there's nothing, you know, there's obviously there could be a lot of things that could be a lot worse than finding nothing. So as time went on, as time goes on by going and expecting nothing, I suppose it makes it easier to cope. So it's quite a sad thing to think about really. If I analyse that to think that you're going thinking that they're going to find nothing, you think tomorrow's going to be exactly the same as today, so why are you going through the test in the first place, is in the hope that something's going to improve from having that test in the first, I don't know. But I don't know. Though my GP has now said, 'Just give up on the tests'.
How do you feel about that?
Frustrated but I understand why. If there was a point, you know, if, you know, what's the point of going through intrusive tests and having, you know, having every area of your body seen to whatever, to be told that they can't find anything. You know is it more despondent to go through that or is it harder to go through that than it is to accept that tomorrow is going to be the same as today and unfortunately, not unfortunately, you know that sounds negative, but, you know, you know what you coped with today, if it does get worse tomorrow, you can get through it, because you got through yesterday. Does that make sense?
It can be very reassuring to hear that others have had similar experiences - whether they are...
It can be very reassuring to hear that others have had similar experiences - whether they are...
Is the Internet something that you've used?
Yeah, I've dabbled. I've looked around on the Internet. And read different articles and in fact my GP's emailed things off the GP Internet or with the GP whatever. I think it's really important when you need, what something happens and you can just dab into the Internet and just read somebody's else or read whatever it's instant reassurance. And again it's profound when you're in a world of grey or you know or perceived black, sometimes it can be you know at really, really enlightening. It makes a huge difference.
Has not wanted to attend a support group. Really appreciated the care given by a trainee at the...
Has not wanted to attend a support group. Really appreciated the care given by a trainee at the...
I'm terrible, I'm not very good at, I've had I've been a member of the endometriosis society for a long time and I've had numbers and people, they've phoned me up before and stuff like that, but I don't do support groups. Maybe I should, but I don't because, I think, if I was honest and true, I think it would make it an awful lot more real than, I don't, I suppose it already is very real but by talking to, talking about it with people who are experiencing it as well, makes me feel like, makes me feel vulnerable, not vulnerable, makes me feel'ill. So I don't, but the, one of the two main supports over the last fourteen years, one was a consultant at the hospital, a trainee who had a huge affect on me coping. She unfortunately, she did her training and actually left and her leaving had a huge affect on me. And the other vital support, other than obviously my family, is my GP who, even though I'm far away from now, I can still phone up whenever I need to. I think that's huge. But I shun quite a lot of support that I probably could have. My GP's put support groups numbers and flyers and things in my hand but I read it and I don't do anything 'cos they make it too real I think, I think that's why, I don't know, I don't know.