David - Interview 08
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David has lived with arthritis most of his life. He was diagnosed when he was two years old and was put on steroids. Twenty-two years later he is still on steroids - a fact he finds distressing - but as he explains - it is because his arthritis is not getting any better. As a child he remembers having very high temperatures and being unable to moved. During his childhood and teen years he was in and out of hospital on a regular basis. There is no history of juvenile arthritis in the family but both his grandparents had developed it later in life.
David says that because he developed arthritis at such a young age his growth, bones and muscles have all been affected by arthritis. David cannot walk far and when going out needs to use a wheelchair.
David has had twenty-seven operations in twenty-three years - the main ones including knee and hip replacement, legs straightening and spinal fusion. This has meant that he has missed a great deal of schooling but he has always been determined to continue with his education. He finished his GCSE's, did his A-levels and has recently finished his university degree. He admits that it was hard catching up with his school work after weeks or months in hospital but he was determined to do it. He says that disabled people find it particularly hard to find employment and therefore, he understood that he needed all his qualifications in order to improve his chances of finding a good job.
When he was on holiday with his family in the USA he became very ill and almost died. David refers to this episode as a turning point in his life. For instance, he says that during his school years he was shy and lacked in confidence and did not get involved in many activities. After his 'near death' experience and at university he became more confident and developed a very good group of friends and enjoyed student social life like everyone else.
David says that his family have always been there for him and that he probably is closer to his parents than most 23 year olds, but also emphasises the fact that he is older now and in control of how he chooses to live. He manages his own medication, hospital appointments and because his home is fitted with special devices, he is able to do most things for himself, like having a shower, opening doors, etc. However, he is restricted to how much he can lift and therefore can't do certain things like cooking. He values his independence very much and 'hates' asking for help. An example of this is that he stopped using socks sometime ago because he cannot put them on himself and prefers to go without rather than asking for help. David says he will ask for help but only when absolutely essential.
Says that his arthritis has remained the same since he was first diagnosed at the age of 2½. He...
Says that his arthritis has remained the same since he was first diagnosed at the age of 2½. He...
Well I am now 23 years of age and I was first diagnosed when I was two and a half obviously I can't remember how it started because I was only a boy but from what I was told it just came on, you know, extremely suddenly, my arthritis. You know, so it, you know, was pretty much a shock. And in those you know days, you know, arthritis in younger people wasn't heard of. So at the time I mean, the doctors didn't know what was wrong with me and it nearly took about three, six months to diagnose. You know at the beginning I was put on steroids which was the only thing in those days. If I hadn't have had them then I would have died basically. But what ' but what to me is what is distressing is that I am still on the steroids today. And I can't get off the steroids. So I have been on them for what, for 21 years and there isn't a day that I haven't took them. So for me that is what is different about my arthritis is the fact that - is the steroids, the fact that for the last 21 years it is not getting any better.
He has physical problems created by the arthritis and the many operations he has had to have on...
He has physical problems created by the arthritis and the many operations he has had to have on...
I will tell you the main ones. When I was seven because my legs when I walked when I walked I was going out, so me legs were all bent, my hips. So I had to have I can't remember what they called it. But I had to have them basically broken and straightened. So they straightened my legs. That was when I was seven so I spent six weeks with my legs - both my legs in plaster. So that was obviously quite hard at the time but in my teenager years I have had both my knees and both my hips replaced that is another four operations. I had my first hip done when I was eleven and I was the smallest person in the country or something to have a hip replacement. But because of the bones and because I had arthritis since I was two, the damage then had already been done. So I mean can you imagine what it is like now, but when I was eleven my hip just totally gave way. And there was hardly any bone there at all because it had just been eroded by the arthritis. So that is why I have had me hips and knees replaced and when I was 15 I had my spine fused and you know you have got the vertebras in your back well I have had the top two of those fused together and I have had you know the, you know peg what your head sits on I have had that removed because basically all my spine was crumbling, the vertebras, and they are supposed to be like in a square but they are more like triangles because it is just crushing and it is still happening now. I have got to have it down again. And then the next two vertebras down I had done I have got to have fused again because it is just crumbling because of the arthritis. So that was a major operation that was. I had to wear this halo on my head and I have still got the screw marks. I had to wear that for four months that was a major operation. If I have it done again it won't be so big because you know obviously that was eight or nine years ago and things have improved since then. But you know eventually I will have to have them all fused. You know I will just get stuck like that eventually and I won't be able to turn my head.
He doesn't like relying on others to help with daily activities but knows when he needs help....
He doesn't like relying on others to help with daily activities but knows when he needs help....
Well around the house you know. Well for instance I can't put socks on and so I don't wear socks. Right. I haven't worn socks for five years. I know it sounds crazy but because I can't put socks on I don't want to keep asking people. I mean in the morning I have to get up myself, dress myself, so there is nobody here to help me put my socks on. So the simple solution is don't wear any socks. You know what I mean. I just can't do it you know. I can't bend down that far. I can get my shoes on because I have got like sticks etc that is easy. But I can't put my sock on. So I don't have any. I don't even have any socks. I know that is only a small thing but it is something I cannot not do. I couldn't do it to save my life. So I just don't wear socks. You now I can't, I mean in the kitchen we have got low work surfaces but I can't really cook so well because I can't lift the pans etc. And they are too heavy and I haven't got the strength. And I can't stand up for a long time anyway. I can only stand up for five, ten minutes at a time. So anything that involves standing up you know, for a long time I can't do. I can make a drink, I can make a sandwich, do the basic things but I can't cook a meal. Do you know what I mean. Because I can't cut things as well with a knife or something because I haven't got the strength. You know. But obviously I can't walk far. If I want to walk to the shops, I can't walk to the shops. And I know I can't play sports but I can do most daily things.
Back in March I learnt to drive. So I have got my car out there is mine. That is probably the best thing in the world because at least I can get to places without paying taxi fares and what have you. As you know it is expensive. But yes, that is probably the main. Having the car that is obviously the main boost is the car.
He was diagnosed with arthritis at 2 years of age. Suspects that it must be worse to be 'normal'...
He was diagnosed with arthritis at 2 years of age. Suspects that it must be worse to be 'normal'...
I don't know really. Because I have only had it since I was two, I mean I don't know any different. So in effect I have never been in the playground playing football. So you know, I have never experienced being normal, although I am normal in lots of respects you know. I am not you know, I can't run around and play football. So in that respect I have never experienced that. So I would say that what you don't have you don't miss. So because since I was two, you know, I mean it is not like, there are people out there who have been non disabled up until they are 12, 13 and then they have become disabled so I could imagine that would be quite hard. Because you have had all those years of normality and you have grown. I mean I have never really grown because I got it when I was two. But there are people out there I know that have become disabled at 12, 13, 14 so they have had that chance to grow, they have had that chance to interact with people and then they have become disabled. I could imagine that that would be very hard. But I don't know what it is like because I don't know. But in that respect you know, I think, I don't really say why me. Because in a way I don't know any different, you know. So it is hard for me to look at someone and think oh you know, I would like to be like that because you know I can't really put myself in that situation.
Says that young people on medication ought to be very careful when drinking alcohol. He is not...
Says that young people on medication ought to be very careful when drinking alcohol. He is not...
Yes and does alcohol interfere with your medication in your case?
Well I think it' I don't know of any effects from it. I mean I am never, I mean I am on drugs that you can't drink or you shouldn't drink or only have a little bit but I have never been affected by it. You know I don't get any reaction you know so I can still have a good time, if you like. And no there are some people that it probably would affect. Everyone is different and they can take certain things.
He has seen doctors and nurses for so many years now that he understands a lot of the medical...
He has seen doctors and nurses for so many years now that he understands a lot of the medical...
In the adult clinic you are in control and it is a quicker and more relaxed service than in the...
In the adult clinic you are in control and it is a quicker and more relaxed service than in the...
And in the children's clinic?
In the children's clinic, I mean, I used to know a lot of people. I mean from the age of sort of 11 to 16 you could go to clinic and you would see people that you know. So even though you wouldn't maybe talk to them at least there was someone there who is in the same position as you. And when I was younger I used to go to hydrotherapy every Wednesday, that was at a different hospital, but again you met people, there was people there your age, only about six or seven a week, but now you don't get to hydrotherapy.
In which way is it important or was it important for you to see younger people around you?
I think back then it was quite important, you know, because as I was growing up, you know, I mean, I went to school where there was disabled people, but it was a mainstream school, but there wasn't anybody, you know, with the same condition as me. So the only time I got to see people was at the hospital. So that was okay. I mean nowadays I wouldn't mind seeing a few more people but there again I have got other friends, you know. So the friends I have got now are perfect and you know I have met from university, so in a way I don't need that contact with the arthritis but I am just saying, you know, just occasionally it would be nice. But I don't. I haven't seen anybody for ages.
His gradual transfer built up his confidence. Suggests what needs to be done to make sure that...
His gradual transfer built up his confidence. Suggests what needs to be done to make sure that...
Okay. Well in my experiences, you know my transition is actually quite good I think. It was one of the best from what I have heard. Basically when you are transferred it is not a case of just going from the children's clinic bye and never see you again you are thrown into the adult based clinics. You see at the adult based clinics you are by yourself, you don't have your parents in the adult based clinics. So you have your parents in the child clinics and they are in control. So what I would say is what I had when I was about 14 I was allowed to see the doctor by myself first and then my parents came in afterwards and so that allowed me at least to build up a bit of confidence and to ask my own questions. To take a bit of control. I mean I didn't have full control. My parents still were there, but you know I could at least get an idea of what it would be like. I mean you can't possibly go from a child based clinic where your parents are just to be thrown into the adult based clinic and expect to be able to know what to do. You know regarding asking questions, regarding managing medication, regarding appointments. You know you need to be able to plan, you know to get it right in your mind what it is going to be like. So I would say no it starts right from when you are 11, 12, you know not just when you are 14, 15, because some people leave when they are 16 the adult based' you know for different illnesses it is different. Like for arthritis I didn't leave until 18 which was quite late that was. But for a lot of illnesses you get moved on when you are 16. So you have to be ready for that. So I would say start when you are 11, 12, 13, 14 you know.
At least if you have started earlier so you can plan, move on and it is not just about the you know your condition, but it is also about everything a teenager needs to know about school, about sex, relationships, anything like that, you know it is about growing up. I mean the teenage years are probably the hardest of your life so it is not just about the illness but I would say the team need to know about everything as just opposed to just about the illness and you need help with that. So it is not just about the illness you need everything and that needs to be transferred to when you are a young adult as well. Like me, I mean, you know, I still need advice on many other aspects of life. So it is not just a case of purely about the illness.
On which aspects for example?
Well if you are at school and you need advice about school, about friends, about relationships, you know, you know, growing up, you know, I mean in your teenage years you are growing up aren't. So you are turning into an adult, so you need that support as well.
Did you have much of that support?
I think I did. I mean I have always had the back up at school from the hospital. If I have ever needed anything, then they have always been there to provide it for me and you know, the hospital, they got involved with the school. It is the same with any other person, anything you need you can get and the hospital have always backed me up in that respect you know, but I guess you know I am quite a private person. I have never really asked for the emotional support as such. I would say as well as your illness there is the emotional side of that illness, which is just as important. I say it is being able to cope with it is just as important as managing your illness.
Talks about what he needed to do to get a specially fitted car and what it means to him to have...
Talks about what he needed to do to get a specially fitted car and what it means to him to have...
Typically because you are severely disabled it doesn't mean you can't drive. But I would say at least apply. You know. Anyway you just wait and wait and wait and have to go through these assessments and you go to meetings, you know you have to go to' there is local places you can go to anyway eventually they come up with a few cars which are possible for you. Anyway you get assessed for the adaptations you need and quote and in the quote you think blimey, I mean that car is '40,000 the car is '12,000 and the '28,000 is adaptions. I mean you haven't got to pay that yourself, you know money, I didn't have to pay that but you get, it all gets assessed and obviously they meet the cost, you know, you do have to have some kind of agreement. Like you might not be able to have that because it costs too much. So you might have to settle for something less. Basically it varies from person to person. Anyway basically the costs get approved, but as time goes on the costs just get more and more because as you go, you have to go down to the' you get assigned to one of the twelve centres, because these adaptation companies where the car goes to, and there is only twelve of these in the whole country. I had to go to one in Wales, every you know to go into the car and to sit in the car and see what, you know, would need adapting and changing etc. So I mean that was over a period of about three years. And up to then the car was just sitting in this garage for three years while they worked on it and while the funding was approved and you know such a long process but in the end it is well worth it.
You got it?
Yes. I got it.
And
Early on he decided that as a young disabled person he would need all the qualifications he could...
Early on he decided that as a young disabled person he would need all the qualifications he could...
Well to be fair I missed a lot of time off school and if you added it all up it probably would come to years that I have missed, you know, I have missed an awful lot of time. I mean when I was off I did have home teaching, but it is not the same as actually getting into school. You know I fell way behind but I thought I had caught up basically. I have always managed to keep up. I mean I left school when I was 16 I got six GCSE's. I got six C's so I went to college and did three A-levels so I have still got the qualifications and I have always managed to catch up and sort of maintain that. I mean it is obviously hard, you know, extremely hard, but you know you just have to get on with it I guess, [chuckles] you know, you got no choice you know.
Okay. So what are your main motivations?
I mean I realise that because I am disabled, it is like anyone who is disabled and need to get a job, it is going to be a little bit hard. So in a way I am going to need all the qualifications I can get my hand on. And that is why I did my A-levels. I went and done my degree so I have got all that. So now there is no reason why, because I have got all that, because I did catch up, because I did work hard, you know, I am able, you know, I have got as much chance of getting a job as anybody else. There is no reason why I can't get a job. You know I am not thick, you know I can - obviously there is issues out there regarding disability and jobs and it is hard for people with disabilities to get jobs. But I think if you have got the qualifications, you know, then that' you have got so much weight, you know, there is no reason why anybody can't give you a job. You know, I suppose it is your attitude as well, you have got to have a positive attitude. I mean I know people, that you know, they would just rather give up. You know what is all that about. I don't approve of'
You don't want to give up?
No. what is the point in giving up. I mean I have had a lot of ups and downs, I mean, I could have gave up years ago. But I mean seeing how you only get one life don't you, so you might as well enjoy it.
Explains the assessment process for Disabled Student Allowance and the help he got that enabled...
Explains the assessment process for Disabled Student Allowance and the help he got that enabled...
So basically the help is there, you just have to be assessed and everyone will get different, like if you have got a physical condition you can get dyslexic if you, you know, you will get some sort of help. Like I got extra time in exams, you know, to write or you can have a writer for you in the exam. That was all through the DSA and if you ever need anything different you just got to the university, to the disability section, and they have like a disability advisor, disability student advisor, you could got to him and he would sort anything out you needed or if you needed any extra hours if you needed anything extra then he would sort that out for you, for me.
As a teenager he lacked self confidence but university and the experience of being seriously ill...
As a teenager he lacked self confidence but university and the experience of being seriously ill...
Well I think when I was a teenager obviously I missed a lot of time off school and so you have to be a strong person to get over that, to keep going on and to do the work. To get my GCSEs, to get my A-levels but I wasn't really confident. Do you know what I mean. I mean I wouldn't go out much with my friends during that period. I mean I was quite shy I guess. But I went to university. I did my first year at university and then at the end I finished there and like the May, June and I went to America during the summer. So I had actually done my first year at university. I went to America and then I was going to go into my second year but obviously I couldn't because I was in hospital. So I missed that year out but I would say the turning point, you know, was I don't know if is like a wake up call, but it is a changing experience. It makes you stronger and you think blimey that was close and you are more positive. I think then, you know, I mean my last two year's at university, I was you know so confident. Just a changed person, you know what I mean. I wouldn't be able to do this before, you know, university. I would have said I am not talking to a camera. I don't want to do it. But now I will do anything. Do you know what I mean. I am not scared about looking for a job now. You know, personally if you had said to me, you go to university and get a good qualification I would have laughed. But I think university as well has changed that. I mean it allows you to be more confident, more outgoing, you can meet loads of people and it just brings you out I guess.
I'm interested to know how did you sort of react at university? Compared to when you were a teenager at school?
When I was a teenager I mean I had friends but I wouldn't go out so much, you know, so they was only my friends really in school or college. I didn't really see anybody outside of those. So I guess, you know, you can call them friends. You know, you can't call them friends really. You know that was probably down to me. I was quite shy and you know I wouldn't get involved with things when I was at university, the first year at university, I met some fantastic people which I still know today and because I had to miss the year I lost contact with those people you know. So they carried on at university while I was in hospital you know. So I lost contact with them a little bit. But people' I have met some new friends, because I went back. The friends - I mean I always say that actually the American experience, that year out, was a blessing in disguise because I met all my friends I have got now and you know, they are fantastic friends. But if I hadn't have had that year out I wouldn't have met them. So in a way even though that happened you know there are lots of positives that come out. But now my friends, you know, just treat me as anybody else, you know. They are fantastic in that respect. And you know, they are not just friends for now, but friends for life, do you know what I mean.
He has just left university and knows there are schemes aimed to help people in his position (he...
He has just left university and knows there are schemes aimed to help people in his position (he...
So I have applied for jobs but I didn't have the experience needed, so obviously I didn't meet the standard for the job. So that is fair enough. You know, I can't moan about that. If I am not good enough for the job then you know, but there are rules now if you are good enough to do the job then you have to be given an interview. That is what I understand anyway. You know it is the law apparently now, and you know it is kind of the way it has gone up, I mean I am informed anyway that there are boxes that you can tick to say that you want, that you are disabled and that you can have a guaranteed interview, you know, provided you meet the standard for the job. Obviously if you are not good enough for the job then you can't '. Yes there are - these rules are only recent but '
And what about if you want to gain work experience and work as a volunteer? Would the same rules apply?
I don't think so. I think work experience is different. I mean it is a lot easier to get work experience. You know obviously you have to - if you are in a wheel chair or you know, to find somewhere that is accessible is quite hard. I went to the BBC which is great, like accessible everywhere but you know there are places out that people do find it difficult to access because of the disability or whatever, but again you can get help. You can have a support worker at the work experience to help you. But to volunteer, I mean I have done voluntary work at the hospital and that but that is only because I have known them. You know but I think it is easier to get voluntary work then work experience as to a paid job as such.
And you want that, you want a paid job?
Yes. I want a paid job. As soon as possible. Yes. I would say you have got to be patient but I am quite hopeful that because I have got my qualifications I will get something.
David enjoys his independence. He asks his parents for advice but makes his own decisions.
David enjoys his independence. He asks his parents for advice but makes his own decisions.
What do you think what the main factors that influenced that? I mean apart from your attitude to it.
Well it was always a plan in my mind to get my grades, to go to college, to go to university. That was always the plan right from when I was a teenager you know to get as many qualifications as possible to allow me to get a better chance of getting a job. But you know my family as well I mean considerably they pushed me, not pushed me as such but it was for my own benefit. Do you know what I mean. And obviously I have got my qualities myself but I have got those from my parents. If they wasn't there to push me along then I probably wouldn't have, you know what I mean, I can't say what I would or wouldn't have done but it would have been harder to develop myself, but I have always had the support of my family.
Are they protective or not?
No. I wouldn't say over protective. I mean because I am older now, I take more of a control in my arthritis and the medication etc. I mean they don't know what is happening so occasionally they ask or they want to know and you know if something isn't quite right then they might say. But at the end of the day it is my decision now. Now since I was 18 it is my decision. So in that respect. I mean I can ask them for advice, but ultimately it is my decision. It is my disease, it is my body. You know I am not a child any more. So nowadays you know, I have to take control and I like taking control. But I wouldn't say overprotective. I mean I am close to my family because of that time I spent in hospital etc. and you know it does make you closer. When you spend so many hours in hospital, so many days, weeks, months, you know you are with someone so much, so you are going to be close to them aren't to them. So I am closer to my family then probably your average 23 year old. You know but that is fine. Nothing wrong with that, you know. But nowadays I do have a lot more independence because I am older, I mean, when I was a teenager as well we didn't have just a house, things round the house, we didn't have like now, up until a few years ago I couldn't even open the front door but now we have got that in place so I can you know, open the garage now at the push of a button. So things like that, you know, I have got lots more control now then I had when I was a teenager. The house I am living now it is more or less built for me, you know, I have got a walk in shower. I can do that myself. When I was younger I had to have a lot of help. You know