Interview AN34
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She trusted her doctor's advice that she should have screening.
She trusted her doctor's advice that she should have screening.
For the...
For any, I mean like all the blood tests and the scans and things?
No, no it wasn't a choice. It was, "You need to come back on such and such a day," and that was it really. And if I couldn't make it on that day, because I was too sick I'd phone and rearrange the appointment but it was never an option.
Are you happy with that looking back, or?
Yeah, yeah. Because the way I feel, it's like the doctors know more than me, so if I need to have this done then I need to have it done, sort of thing. It was just me overcoming my fear of needles and blood that was like the main problem for me.
She and her partner agreed quickly about screening but their views might change now they already have a baby.
She and her partner agreed quickly about screening but their views might change now they already have a baby.
And did you have any discussions with him about whether or not you'd consider termination for Down's syndrome?
Yeah.
And his view? He wouldn't either?
No.
Did you find you agreed quickly about it or...?
Yeah, yeah. There wasn't very much to discuss, really. I kind of remember just putting it to him, and him saying no and I felt like that anyway, so there wasn't really much to discuss, but yeah.
And do you think his feelings would've changed now that you've got one, about whether or not...?
About having another one? Yes.
How do you think he'd think about it now?
I wouldn't say he would opt directly for an abortion, I wouldn't say that. But I think he would think hardly on that side, simply because [son] is such a handful. If he wasn't, then maybe it would go another way, but I think as the situation is right now, yeah, it would sway our decision.
She really enjoyed seeing the baby at the 20-week scan. She would have liked to choose which photograph to have.
She really enjoyed seeing the baby at the 20-week scan. She would have liked to choose which photograph to have.
And what were the experiences of the scans like for you?
Great, I loved them, I loved them. Just the fact that I could see my baby on the screen was just like wow, it was just amazing.
Did you go on your own?
No, with my partner, his dad. But no I didn't find them uncomfortable or anything like that. They were brilliant. And as I said, the fact that I could see my baby it was just like I didn't really want to leave. They used to give me extra long scans.
And what sort of, did they talk to you during it or were they...?
Yeah, yeah.
Right, so you felt you were getting enough?
Yeah. But the only thing that I had a problem with was when they took the pictures at five months. I wanted, because I wanted a specific picture, like his face and then like - but the doctor literally just scanned me and then said, "Oh here's your photo," sort of thing. And it was like, "Oh I don't like this photo," I had that kind of... But yeah, at my first scan at three months they asked me, "Oh do you like that one?" and we were like clicking away sort of thing.