Interview AN31
Problems detected in first pregnancy at nuchal scan - confirmed as Down's syndrome by CVS. Couple decided to end the pregnancy. Subsequent normal pregnancy and birth.
Children' first pregnancy ended at 13 weeks. Baby aged 6 weeks, Occupation' Mother - Housewife Father - financial analyst, Marital status' Married.
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She would have liked her husband to be allowed in with her throughout the nuchal scan in her first pregnancy. They gradually realised something was wrong.
She would have liked her husband to be allowed in with her throughout the nuchal scan in her first pregnancy. They gradually realised something was wrong.
I remember thinking that she [woman performing the scan] was a bit of a moody old thing, and that I always expected people, anything to do with babies would be, 'Oh, is this your first? You know, ask any questions', being very - and I just remember she was really, really grumpy, really moody.
I remember that vividly, because as she was going through the scan and my husband came in, I saw her attitude completely change, and that's when I knew that something was wrong. Because she didn't take any notice of me. First of all, she said the baby wasn't - she was trying to get the scan, the nuchal scan. She was trying to get the measurements and the baby wasn't moving very much, so I had to go for a walk.
So me and my husband went for a walk round the hospital, came back again, went to go in again. Again, no, the baby wasn't moving, and to go for another walk. So we did that again. And all the time she was very matter-of-fact and I thought quite moody.
When we went back again and she had done the measurements and she had got someone else in to do the measurements, her attitude completely changed. She held my hand, she looked at me, whereas before she was just chatting to the other lady in there. She talked at me, you know, looked at me and held my hand, and told me that there, it was a very high measurement, and they had done it three times and taken the average and it was still high, and that I would need to go and have a further scan.
What do you feel about the fact that they ask the husband or partner to stay outside for the first bit?
Well, I can understand it in a way, because they ask you questions, for example, if you've been pregnant before, if you've had AIDS, anything like that, and I suppose some women, you know, they may not want their partner to know.
But I'm sure they could do that, and then let their husband or partner in the room straight off, because it's a worrying time, and they don't really talk to you. And, as I said, this woman was very matter-of-fact and talking to her friend so she wasn't really telling me what she was doing, and I'd never had it done before so I didn't know. So that makes you anxious because you don't know what they're doing and it would have been better if my husband had been in there from the very beginning, I feel.
CVS (Chorionic Villus Sampling) was very painful, but it helped that the professor doing it was kind and comforting.
CVS (Chorionic Villus Sampling) was very painful, but it helped that the professor doing it was kind and comforting.
It was quite traumatic because the girl that went to do it, she couldn't do it. She kept trying to do it and couldn't do it, and the professor had to come in and do it. But he was very nice, I mean he held my hand and he told me to squeeze, and he went, he stroked my hair and things like that.
He was very, very tactile, which really, really helped. Even more so than telling me what he was doing, which he went through, and you could actually - I didn't look - but my husband could see on the screen exactly the needle going in and what it was doing. But I obviously couldn't see that, but he was very tactile and that really, really helped me, I found, very reassuring.
Did it hurt?
Yes, very much so.
Were you prepared for that?
I was prepared for it to hurt, but maybe not quite so much as it did. And also you're very emotional, and I did lie there with tears streaming down my face, I know that. Because a lot if it is very - well, you're emotional anyway because your hormones are all over the place - but because of what you're doing, and also you're thinking about the risk of miscarriage as well, which he'd explained to me. So you're thinking about that and you're thinking, you know, it's just everything all to, at once. But it did hurt, yes.