Emilie
Emilie developed alopecia universalis when she was 4 years old. She remembers feeling very angry about her hair loss throughout her childhood. Over time, and with the support of loved ones, Emilie has grown more confident and accepting of having alopecia.
Emilie is 18 years old. She recently finished sixth form and is due to start at university. Her ethnic background is White English.
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Emilie has had alopecia since she was 4 years old. She noticed clumps of hair on her pillow one morning after she woke up and, after that, her hair loss was quite rapid. Emilie’s current diagnosis is alopecia universalis. Her hair loss affects her scalp and eyebrows as well as other areas of body hair such as on her legs. She is hoping that she won’t lose her eyelashes but she is aware that this may be a possibility in the future. Emilie doesn’t know exactly what caused her alopecia but she thinks that genetics plays a part. She also finds that her hair falls out more when she is stressed.
As a child, Emilie remembers having blood tests taken as doctors tried to work out whether there was another underlying health condition causing her alopecia. She remembers seeing a dermatologist when she was little; she got on well with the dermatologist and felt that he knew her well. However, she now tends to see lots of different dermatologists and it can be frustrating having to re-tell her story at each appointment. Emilie appreciates when her doctors are honest about the fact that her hair may never grow back. More recently, Emilie has talked to her dermatologists about ingrown hairs on her legs. She feels embarrassed about showing her doctors the skin on her legs because they are quite scarred from where she has picked at the ingrowing hairs. Emilie’s dermatologists have given her various creams for her legs but nothing has helped that much so far.
Emilie felt very angry about her alopecia when she was a child, partly in response to other pupils making nasty comments. She recalls that the other pupils would ask her if she has cancer and bully her for her hair loss. Through emotional management classes, Emilie learnt techniques for responding. She thinks that often people asking such questions are very ignorant of alopecia. Emilie has found humour to be important when making new friends and she finds meeting people easier now that her friendship group has also matured. Emilie’s school teachers in both primary and secondary school were supportive. Some teachers in particular were especially kind to her whilst she was experiencing bullying and other emotional difficulties. In turn, Emilie helped to look out for other kids at her school who were being bullied or in need of someone to talk to.
Emilie likes to express herself through her clothes and particularly a vintage-retro style. She doesn’t like to wear wigs as she finds them itchy and uncomfortable. Emilie loves doing creative activities such as drama, singing, dancing and art, which she finds help express her feelings and boost her confidence. Her advice to other young people is to be themselves and to feel comfortable in experimenting with their style (e.g. through clothes, make-up and other accessories), whether or not this includes wigs.
One upside for Emilie of being bald is enjoying the feel of wind on her skin.
One upside for Emilie of being bald is enjoying the feel of wind on her skin.
[Laughs]
Trying to keep their curls from going out and, you know, kind of sitting like this [leans back] and I’m sat there just enjoying the breeze on my face. And I turn around and go, “Oh, oh, sorry, d’you want me to shut this? No? Okay then.” [Laughs]. So its’s a struggle for other people but for me it’s just never a struggle.
Emilie was shocked when she read online that pulling her hairs out when she’s stressed could be a form of self-harm, as it’s not how she thought about it.
Emilie was shocked when she read online that pulling her hairs out when she’s stressed could be a form of self-harm, as it’s not how she thought about it.
[Nods]
Could I ask a bit about that?
Yeah, it’s, it’s become a habit and I actually tend to do it when I’m stressed and I actually kind of, I know a lot of people do this try and self-assess themselves on the computer but there was something kind of shocked me and scared me and kind of not stopped me from doing it completely but prevented me. When I, I do it when I’m stressed, you know, I really dig at my skin and I, you know, I get a pair of tweezers and I try ripping these hairs out and I notice that I get lots of scabs and I get very upset over it and then I think ‘why is it like this?’ and then I’ll get upset and then I start picking again, you know, trying to get rid of the scab and pulling off the scabs.
Emilie’s alopecia affects her pubic hair and she prefers to shave the area.
Emilie’s alopecia affects her pubic hair and she prefers to shave the area.
Emilie built up trust with her dermatologist when she was little and preferred this over new doctors who she had to re-explain her experiences to.
Emilie built up trust with her dermatologist when she was little and preferred this over new doctors who she had to re-explain her experiences to.
Emilie encourages young people with alopecia to have fun with their appearance and expressing their identity.
Emilie encourages young people with alopecia to have fun with their appearance and expressing their identity.
For Emilie, who has had alopecia since she was 6, clothing has always been very important.
For Emilie, who has had alopecia since she was 6, clothing has always been very important.
[Laughs]
I think clothing for me is very important it, it just is a part of me and a lot of people don’t understand that – that I feel like it’s a way of me showing how I like to [gestures] design myself if that makes sense cos I can’t design myself with hair I do it through clothing. When it comes to make-up all I wear is eyeliner and mascara – I don’t, I know there’s a lot of women out there that’s got alopecia universalis who obviously have no eyelashes, eyebrows and they wear fake eyelashes they draw on their eyebrows, you know, they put a lot of foundation on, I don’t, I just put on mascara and eyeliner, I can’t be bothered with foundation, it’s not good for my skin. My eyebrows, I’ve tried drawing them in, I look like a monster [laughs].
How come?
I came in, into the living room and showed my brother and he went “No, no, take that off.” But yeah, I don’t bother with makeup.
Doing drama allows Emilie to ‘funnel’ her emotions through the characters she plays.
Doing drama allows Emilie to ‘funnel’ her emotions through the characters she plays.
Emilie’s brother wrote in to a TV programme when she had been cross about an interview they had shown with someone with alopecia.
Emilie’s brother wrote in to a TV programme when she had been cross about an interview they had shown with someone with alopecia.
Emilie’s boyfriend’s dad also has alopecia and she talks about how he makes her laugh about it.
Emilie’s boyfriend’s dad also has alopecia and she talks about how he makes her laugh about it.
Yeah, yeah, sure.
Coneheads? It’s an 80’s movie. Basically they’ve all got really, really big cone bald heads he constantly refers to that film and, for jokes, and he said, “Emilie, on the count of three, turn to them and stare”. So we just sat upright and just, you know, [turns head to the side and stares] just joking around, cos some kids just laugh about it and these kids were like [gasp] “Oh, oh”.
[Laughs]
So [laughs] yeah, it is a connection that I haven’t been able to have with quite a lot of people and he’s actually the first person that I’ve spent a lot of time with that’s actually got it. when I was younger we’d meet people who had alopecia, who’ve had alopecia but not necessarily still do, and a lot of them are much older than me so I still felt very alone and it was lovely the fact my mum and dad did this for me, you know I felt really appreciated and I appreciated what they were doing. But at the same time because there was no-one around here that I knew had it I did feel very isolated for a long time and it took a while for me to get out of that isolation and, you know, take my hood down and start actually making friends and doing things that bring up my confidence.