Interview 13
Age at interview: 43
Brief Outline: Had planned surgery in 1998 to remove kidney because of ongoing problems with kidney stones and infections. ICU stay after surgery was also planned. Stayed in intensive care for 2 days. Spent about five weeks in hospital after surgery.
Background: Occupation: trainer/ researcher. Marital status: single. Number of children: no children. Ethnic background: White British.
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She prepared herself psychologically but her first date for surgery was cancelled because of a...
She prepared herself psychologically but her first date for surgery was cancelled because of a...
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How long ago was this?
About 1998. And the worst thing was actually waiting for a bed to become available because you get yourself geared up to have surgery, and then it had to be cancelled because there were actually no Intensive Care beds in London. And in fact, on the day that I had the surgery, I took the last Intensive Care bed, in north London. And so that's quite traumatic to know that on the very day, you might, you know, it might all go horribly wrong and you might not have the surgery.
She felt weepy having had surgery but knew these feelings would pass because she'd had them before.
She felt weepy having had surgery but knew these feelings would pass because she'd had them before.
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She learnt more from her brother than from the doctors about the pain she might have after surgery.
She learnt more from her brother than from the doctors about the pain she might have after surgery.
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And particularly because of the spinal condition, it would be more likely that it would be more painful for me because the ribs are so close together. And I'm so, so glad that he told me that because actually when I woke up, it was incredibly painful. And If I'd woken up like that, I would have been so scared that, you know, somebody had chopped my arm off or something, because every time I breathed, it was incredibly painful.
So the trouble is that you don't know what you don't know and I think quite often doctors don't realise that patients don't know and they don't know what it feels like and they don't, and things that they don't think, "Oh well, we'll put a chest drain in." That doesn't seem terribly important to them but actually can make a huge amount of difference.
Her doctors didn't seem to appreciate that she might take longer to recover and not need certain...
Her doctors didn't seem to appreciate that she might take longer to recover and not need certain...
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Because they can give, if you're going to have surgery they give you anti-clotting injections every day if you're in bed, you know, for a long time, to stop blood clots. And it's quite a painful injection, you end up with bruises and everything. And I asked my brother, I don't understand why they're doing this to me because I'd been in a wheelchair for 42 years, I'm not going to get a blood clot from being in bed [laughs] you know. There's people going to bed, you know, who normally aren't in bed, and he [brother] said, "Tell them." You know, "Say, 'I don't, stop this, it's ridiculous'" [laughs]. You know. And so I did and I saw the doctor and I said, "Why are you still giving me this?" And he said, "Well, it's to stop, you know, risks of blood clots." And I said, "Well, yeah but I've been in a wheelchair for 42 years, I'm not going to get one now." And he said, "Oh, yes, right." And crossed it off. But, you know, I needed somebody to ask somebody to sort of, but I mean I couldn't have done if I'd, you know, if I'd not had a doctor in the family, I could have but you have to not be afraid to say, "Actually, why are you giving me this injection?"